Couples Intensives

Sometimes there is just no time to waste. For couples in crisis or couples just wanting to get down to work in a concentrated time frame, I offer several options for more intensive couples therapy. Depending on your time availability, the issues you are dealing with, and your financial resources, you may opt to do anywhere from a one day (5-6 hours), to a one, two, or “two day plus” intensive. All one-day intensives are offered on select Fridays. Please contact me for availability.

Here is a sample schedule for the one-day intensive:

Friday morning 9:00-10:30 Introductory couples session, followed by two one-hour individual sessions.

Friday 12:30-2 Lunch on your own

Friday 2-4 or 4:30pm Couples therapy follow-up session

Here is a sample schedule for the 2-day plus intensive:

Thursday evening 7:30-9pm Introductory couples session

Friday morning 10-12: Two individual one-hour sessions

Friday 12-1:30 Lunch on your own

Friday afternoon 1:30-4  Couples follow-up session

Saturday morning 10-12  Couples session

Saturday afternoon 2-4 or 4:30 Final couples session

75 minute follow up session 4-6 weeks later scheduled at couples convenience in person or via teleconference

What would we hope to accomplish in this accelerated time frame?

The right length couples intensive can be determined according to your availability, financial resources, and level of urgency. Keep in mind that most couples therapy is conducted for approximately an hour a week, so even a one day retreat offers a way to get through what would otherwise take a month’s time.

The first 90 minutes is your opportunity to tell me about your relationship, both the ways you feel stuck now in the present as well each of your views about what brought you together. As I hear you tell your story and share the pain of what has gone wrong, I will be tracking the relational dance between you and referencing what we now know as the science of love relationships to help you make sense of your experience.

I follow this initial meeting with two one-hour individual sessions so that I can learn a little about each of your histories and get a sense of your individual concerns about the relationship in a more unedited way.

The following couples session we come together to really dig into the first stage of treatment, the de-escalation of the conflict cycle. What this means is that we try to understand the relationship pattern that continues to undermine your connection, specifically by exploring what emotions are driving the behaviors that pull you apart.

If we have the next day or day and a half to continue our work, we will take steps towards finding new ways to strengthen the bond between you by expressing the fears of closeness that get in the way, and voicing each of your needs with a newly emerging vulnerability.

A couples intensive offers a way to jump in and really get a sense of what can be done to change the course of a relationship that seems to be in trouble. It is often advisable to follow up your intensive experience with an ongoing couples therapy, as there is a need to integrate the learning and skills over time. If you are coming from a distance and cannot find a skilled therapist in your home location, we will discuss options as we wrap up our time together.

What are the fees and how is the payment made?

The cost for a six-hour one-day intensive is $1400, while the cost for the two plus day intensive is  $3000. A pre-screening interview by phone with both members of the couple on the line is conducted prior to making the commitment or paying a deposit. Payments can be made by check or credit card. A deposit of 50% is required to hold the date with the balance due the day prior to meeting.